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Change, fear and Yahoo
Whether or not Yahoo's new office-bound strategy will be successful is anybody's guess. From the outside looking in, the key issue is whether Yahoo realizes that to be a healthy organization and deal with resistance you first need to deal with fear. Anger, power and soul
Power and passion are woven into our life's purpose; they are part of why we are on the planet. But when we lose our sense of power, we feel deficient and invisible. What results is anger. Pointing fingers
It's easy to point fingers at others, especially amid the current epidemic of public figures being accused of actions that are either immoral or unethical if not technically illegal. But many of us are just as prone to similar ethical lapses when it seems convenient. Harmony or dis-harmony?
You compose the music of your own life. When you experience upset of one kind or another, it's usually because you're out of harmony with yourself. When you experience difficulty in your relationships at work or at home, it's most often because your music and the notes of your life are not on the same page. Real resolve for 2013
For many of us, New Year's resolutions are knee-jerk reactions to something we don't like about ourselves – and that's usually about our "packaging" or some surface issue. But creating true resolve requires a deep, inner and conscious process. Empathy comes from the heart, not the mind
Empathy springs from the heart, not the mind, which is why we can never talk ourselves into being empathetic. Empathy requires a higher state of consciousness, and cognition and consciousness are poles apart. They are not synonyms, but sit at either end of a continuum. Trampling over others to get what you want
Our workplaces – and many other areas of life – see far too many individuals happy to mistreat, abuse and devalue others in order to achieve their desperate desire to get what they want - behaviour that is fuelled by a toxic blend of competition and anxiety. Gratitude
Regardless of your personal circumstances, there are always good reasons to be thankful. Gratitude and thankfulness are extremely healthy emotions and ones that can be cultivated, opening us up to being even more to be grateful and helping to unlock abundance.
Getting to the root cause
This month, Peter Vajda has some advice for a manger who has taken time off work for medical reasons and find that she is having issues with staff morale and attitudes on her return. Are you secure in your own skin?
Everyone experiences insecurity in some way. And while most of us can deal with our insecurities without becoming paralyzed, there are those who are consumed by them, damaging not only themselves, but also their relationships with those around them. No mud, no lotus
Without mud, you cannot have a lotus flower. And over the years, I've become a devout believer that you cannot heal, grow, become "conscious" or deeply self-aware, without suffering. Economics and the zero-sum game
From being a system enabling us to share goods and services to meet our needs, economics has become a zero-sum game that encourages individuals to become selfishly obsessed with gaining an ever larger piece of the pie at the expense of others. So you think you can lead?
Leading others is like dancing. It requires technical skills, but on their own they aren't enough. The key to effective leadership is emotional connection. And the reason so many organizations have such a negative climate is that their leaders are severing their emotional ties to their workforce - assuming they had any ties to begin with. Friendship for sale (30% off!)
Whether we are aware of it or not, many of us "trade" for friendship by doing things for others in the hope of buying their approval. We forget that authentic friendship is an "inside job", not something that can be bought or sold. Work is like a family: and that's the problem
Even as adults, we are still children. Why? Because the patterns of behavior we learned as children stay with us throughout our lives. So like it or not, we all bring our families with us when we go to work and we all play the roles – both visible and invisible – that we have been playing since childhood. Is self-help helping?
Many of us have been on a self-help journey at one point or another, often with little success. Sadly, much of what is considered to be "self-help" doesn't result in any real change. That's because it only engages your mind rather than encouraging you to examine yourself at a deeper level.
Disengagement: when the flame dies
Disengaged, under-performing employees damage morale and hurt the bottom line. But people don't become disengaged by accident. It's the culture of the organization and the behavior of leaders and managers that determine whether employees are turned on or switched off. Living with uncertainty
In the current climate of political, social, financial and workplace uncertainty, it's hardly surprising that many of us are experiencing feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. But what can we do about them - and what's the positive side of these troubled times? We all need proper vacations
"Weisure" is a term coined by sociologists to describe the blurring the line between work and leisure. What a con! Taking real time out from work a non-negotiable necessity if we're to to maintain a healthy mind, body and soul. Heck, it's only a touch-up
Do you live a Photoshopped life? Are taking people for a ride by the image you put out? Do you project your real and authentic self? Or do you try to persuade the world that you're somebody you're not? Here we are, both of us lonely
In our electronic world, more people are connecting, but fewer are relating. And even as it becomes easier than ever to stay "in touch", our capacity to really touch one another is slipping away. Like it or not, you can't be intimate from a distance. 25 behaviors that foster mistrust
Relationships are at the heart of life – even life at work. And the secret sauce that creates a healthy relationship is trust. So does your own behavior help to build trust or does it contribute to creating mistrust? The relationship web
Whether we are aware of it or not, our lives are giant webs of inter-connectivity. How many people do you interact with every day? And how many of these do you see as being real people to be seen, acknowledged, appreciated and valued? Between a rock and a hard place
When one manager tells you one thing and another says precisely the opposite, what can you do? In this month's advice clinic, Peter Vajda suggests a course of action for someone caught in the middle of just such a situation. How to keep from living a life of insanity
Many people exhibit 'presenteeism' in just about every aspect of their life, choosing to live with the hand they have been dealt rather than being proactive about changing their life or lifestyle. But next week and the week after that need not be carbon copies of this week or last week. Wisdom vs intelligence
Many business leaders are intelligent. But they're not wise, or even aware that they lack wisdom. And that's something that no amount of left-brain thinking, "operations-focused" education or experiential learning is going to change. Collusion, culture and bad management
Does your workplace have a culture of collusion? Are you happy to turn a blind eye to the misdeeds to ensure a quiet life? If so, beware. Collusion is a progressive drug. We need to lie and collude more and more to maintain that false feeling of emotional safety Filling the void
Does your organization encourage open and honest communication? Does it empower individuals to engage in healthy conversation? Because healthy communication begets healthy relationships - and healthy relationships beget a healthy organization. Author, heal thyself
Why do some people always seem to need to run other peoples' lives? Why do they prefer to judge, evaluate and tell others how to deal with the struggles of life rather than getting to know themselves? And how can they close the book on other peoples' lives and start to author the book of thier own?
Revenge and compassion
How do you deal with those at work or at home, who you feel have "wronged" you, treated you unfairly, or damaged your spirit? Do you seek revenge? Do you lash out? Are you an "eye for an eye" type? Or are you forgiving, compassionate and understanding? Being curious about curiosity
Are you curious? When was the last time you re-invented your business, your relationship, yourself? How do you feel about the notion of re-inventing? Exhilarated? Or is your life so mechanical that there is no room for curiosity or inquisitiveness? Real resolve for 2012
Many New Year's resolutions are not conscious choices. They are knee-jerk reactions to something we don't like about ourselves – and it's usually about our "packaging" or some surface issue. Creating true resolve requires a deep, inner and conscious process. Help me to move on
This month, Peter Vajda offers some advice about the difference between being likable and needing to be liked, and what that means in the workplace. As he explains, almost everyone wants to be liked. But you can't build a career solely around being liked. When the horse dies, it's time to get off
What are the issues you're facing in your life? Are they the same issues you faced last year, or the year before that, or even earlier? If they are, you're carrying a dead horse on your shoulders. And that's a very tiring, debilitating and self-sabotaging burden to bear. 
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