Are all white people privileged?

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Jul 01 2019 by David Livermore Print This Article

You canít have an honest conversation about cultural intelligence without addressing the issue of 'white privilege', the idea that white people inherit certain privileges simply by the color of their skin.

But privilege is not an easy topic of conversation. People on all sides of the issue quickly become emotional and defensive. People of color are fatigued by having to prove the point to white colleagues while many white people feel anything but privileged and experience what Robin DiAngelo refers to as Ďwhite fragilityí.

Are all white people privileged? It depends how you define Ďprivilegeí. You knew you would get an Ďit dependsí response from me, right? But hear me out.

Imagine you grew up in a very poor, white family. One reason J.D. Vanceís book Hillbilly Ellegy resonated with so many people was because he offered insight on what it means to grow up poor and white. His family struggled with poverty, domestic violence, moving from place to place, and navigating the welfare system. His ancestors were day laborers in the southern slave economy and eventually coal miners, machinists, and millworkers. Theyíre referred to as hillbillies, rednecks, or white trash by the dominant culture. To be clear, thatís not the same as a history characterized by being forced to the U.S. as slaves, but itís a perspective worth consideration.

Even most middle class white people donít easily embrace the idea that theyíre privileged. Itís not like someone knocked on their door and handed them their college degree, job, and home. And yet what are the invisible benefits they experience day-to-day that stem from a long history of privilege?

A 1,200-word article wonít do justice to such a complex, highly sensitive topic. But here are a few guiding principles for making the conversation about privilege more productive.

White privilege is real.

Itís impossible to deny that being born with white skin affords certain unearned privileges. White privilege is knowing I can walk into a restaurant, use the bathroom, and leave without buying anything and itís unlikely anyone will say anything to me about it. Itís knowing I can go to the front door of my house and not have someone ask me if the home owner is around. Itís the confidence that I can turn on the TV and see people who look like me. I not only experience the benefits of white privilege in the U.S., I encounter it most everywhere in the world.

Itís not that youíre privileged if youíre white. Itís that being white is a privilege. A white kid growing up in a poor trailer park living next door to a black kid growing up in the same environment has fewer barriers to worry about than the black kid does. But Iím not suggesting thatís the approach to take with struggling white families. Read on.

Privilege exists on a spectrum.

Who is more privileged? A white single mom living on welfare or a black, married man with a professional job? It depends! Both have some privileges the other one doesnít have. Ethnicity and skin color are an essential part of the discussion about privilege but our understanding of privilege must be broader to include many other dimensions of identity.

Kimberly Crenshawís notion of Intersectionality allows us to see that people can be privileged in some ways and not in others. Skin color is one of the most significant variables of privilege, but there are many others. ďPrivilegeĒ is anything you are born into, not things you earned. Your privilege often has a direct impact on the opportunities you get.

Consider how you would score on the spectrum of privilege in light of these indicators. The person born with the most of these has the most power in most contexts:

  • Citizenship: Born in a stable, developed country
  • Social Class: Born into a financially, stable family and zip code
  • Skin Color: Born white
  • Sexual Orientation: Born straight
  • Sex: Born male
  • Ability: Born able bodied/minded
  • Gender: Born cis-gendered

This is by no means an exhaustive list. And Iím not suggesting we should start tallying privilege points. But our discussions about privilege desperately need a more nuanced approach that acknowledges numerous factors that influence privilege. Itís reductive and insulting to reduce any individual to a single story. Privilege exists on a wide spectrum.

Donít Dismiss Someoneís Struggle

Last week my daughter Grace was in a serious cycling accident. It took an emergency rescue team five hours to get her to the hospital, followed by a lengthy surgery overseas. Sheís now on a long road to recovery. All indicators suggest she will fully recover. The same day of her accident, another girl her age fell in the same forest, broke her back, and will probably never walk again. When my daughter was lying in agony, I didnít say, ďWell at least youíre not like this other girl who will never walk.Ē Minimizing someoneís pain and struggle by telling them someone else has it worse is not only ineffective, it lacks compassion and empathy.

In a similar way, screaming that your privileged to someone who grew up in a trailer park with a single parent is tone deaf. Only in very specific circumstances would any reasonable person ask a white person in abject poverty to consider their white privilege. My daughter herself later reflected on how fortunate she is compared to how much worse her accident could have been. But in an attempt to build awareness and foster perspective-taking, we should always avoid dismissing the reality of someoneís struggle and unique story.

Dialogue and reflection work better than debate

Itís inarguable that white males have privileges others donít have. But itís the spectrum of privilege that is most helpful to consider. Debates about who has more privilege put people on the defensive. 30 percent of people feel like youíve lost your mind when you tell them that that their benefits are things that were handed to them. Rather than arguing with someone about whether theyíre privileged, structure conversations to move toward reflection about the gradient of advantage they may have had as compared to if they had been born differently.

How would your life be different if you had been born a different gender? What about a different skin color? How would your reality change if you had been born in Sudan?

The point is not to say, ďHey - every aspect of your life is privileged.Ē That is not true for most people. But we want to get everyone to start thinking about it. The ask for white people is this: Consider the fact that because you are white, there are certain aspects of the world you donít have to worry about.

CQ Your messaging about privilege

Finally, we need to apply cultural intelligence to how we talk about privilege. Itís ridiculous to suggest that white privilege is the same for all while people in the world. Itís equally ludicrous to deny that a white person has some things they just donít have to think about.

Donít say, ďYouíre privileged!Ē. Instead say, ďYou have access to privilege.Ē

We need to find the zone of productive disequilibrium where we allow enough discomfort to foster productive reflection and change but not so much that people shut down and feel defensive.

I didnít choose to be a straight, white, able-bodied male. But Iím ignorant if I donít acknowledge that I hit the lottery on the privilege spectrum. To be honest, I was leery of writing this article. Who am I to be pontificating about privilege? Our own team at the Cultural Intelligence Center has rigorous discussions about what we all need to consider about this personally as well as in light of our work.

My privilege blinds me from certain aspects of this conversation. But the enormous privilege I have makes me all the more committed to engage in meaningful dialogue with others about these realities and to strive toward making the world a more inclusive, equitable place for everyone. I welcome your perspective on this complicated topic.

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David Livermore
David Livermore

David Livermore is a thought leader in cultural intelligence (CQ) and global leadership and the author of "Leading with Cultural Intelligence". He is president and partner at the Cultural Intelligence Center in East Lansing, Michigan and a visiting research fellow at Nanyang Technological University in Singapore.