What does it mean to be spiritual?

Dec 11 2009 by Peter Vajda Print This Article

I'm often asked what I mean when I refer to 'spirituality' or 'soul' in the context of life at work, at home or in a relationship. So let me explain.

For me, soul or spirit (and I will use them interchangeably from here on) describes the essential, innate force or energy that lives inside every human being. Being spiritual (or soulful), means living one's life according to a deeper meaning that results from a lifelong practice of self-reflection, inquiry and exploration.

Soulful moments
No one, that I know of, lives life spiritually 24/7/365. However, many spiritual folks experience moments of joy, communion, connection, love, compassion, gratitude, and silence wherein they "transcend" their ego-personality self.

In this spiritual place, these folks experience a kind of "knowing", a kind of "connection" to the whole of the universe where they access a "wisdom," where they really "see" life from this larger dimension or perspective – where all the ego-based masks and false appearances melt away.

These moments are not mental. These moments are more like being "in the zone" where we know how to do, be and have but not from a mind-directed perspective. In this place, we are out of our mind.

Spirituality in the real world
Experiencing spirituality in the real world – at 9:00 Monday morning – means treating others with dignity and respect, kindness, and compassion. It means we respect the world and all that the world contains – its abundance of plant and animal life – by not polluting, destroying, or degrading the flora or fauna of the planet by our everyday decisions about how we live and work.

It means telling the truth, being self-responsible, accountable and forthright with all those with whom we deal – at work, at home, at play and in relationship – acting with full disclosure, and honesty.

Soulfulness means coming from a place of balance and harmony – an equilibrium or alignment between what we think feel, say and do. And taking an inner approach to prioritizing our life – work life, family life, personal life – in the pursuit of activities that nourish and enrich every aspect of our life. That we choose, honestly, sincerely and self-responsibly to focus on the well-being of our mind, body and spirit.

Spirituality means we choose to live life as a steward of the planet, that we come from a place of "we," not "me," and continually reflect, and then act upon, what "we" want and need, how "we" want to be acknowledged and appreciated, and how "we" can contribute to the well-being of all of us.

As a steward, we explore how we can make a difference for the greater good, and how we serve to enhance the well-being of others.

Passion and purpose are hallmarks of soulfulness - our heart drives us and gives us direction. When we live from a heart-based place, then we are up-front, honest, sincere and in integrity at work, at home, at play and in relationship – no dishonesty, shortcuts, collusion, deception or underhandedness. We live from a place of joy, enthusiasm, appreciation, collaboration and community.

Ingenuity, inventiveness, imagination, discovery, creativity and innovation are soulful and spiritual drivers. We look for new ways of doing and being. We exude boldness and initiative. We are open to new ideas and are continuous learners in all of life. Continued self-awareness is paramount.

Finally, soulfulness and spirituality are about being conscious - in our thoughts, words, and deeds. We seek an ever growing awareness of our motives and values. We are intentional in every moment. We see the truth of what is happening and know the difference between the truth and our projections and fantasies that we make believe are the truth.

Consciousness is the lifelong process of increasing self-awareness about "who I am," "how I am" and "what I'm here to do with my life" – ever seeking to bring our unconscious self to conscious awareness.

My take is that our life at work, at home, at play and in relationship is more honestly served, and truly rewarding, when we focus on ethics, values, integrity and principles that emanate from this place of soul or spirit.

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Peter Vajda
Peter Vajda

Peter G. Vajda, Ph.D, C.P.C. is a seminar leader, workshop facilitator and speaker. He is the founding partner of True North Partnering, an Atlanta-based company that supports conscious living through coaching, counselling and facilitating.

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Thank you so much for sharing this with us Peter.

Katie Katie, Maine

I really like this piece too - thanks Peter!

Sara London

beautiful Peter! This acts as template which helps me in areas where I need to continue to grow and develop. Thank you!