Employee engagement? Forget it

Apr 21 2015 by Wayne Turmel Print This Article

One of the biggest workplace issues of the day - and this website is absolutely loaded with articles to prove it - is employee engagement. Year after year were told that that fewer than a third of employees are actively engaged at work. This, it seems, is the fault of careless employers who just dont care. If they only offered better benefits, or free pizza, or allowed webcams, or let us bring in our shih-tzu to the office, employees would re-engage to give their best efforts and all would be well with the world.

Theres only one problem with that theory: its nonsense.

Before you scroll down to the comments section to fire off angry rebuttals, hear me out. Im not saying that employers dont make a difference to employee engagement levels, they do. The fallacy, though, is that engagement is something you can do to other people.

The theory goes that if you act a certain way, your employees will reciprocate your feelings and give you a better effort. The problem is that employee engagement happens solely on the part of the individual worker. Dont believe me? Consider your love life.

I dont want to pick at any emotional scabs, but have you ever been wildly in love with someone who didnt feel the same way about you? The sad truth is, you cant make someone love you. You can make a conscious effort to attract them, and some of us can come up with 150 ways to drive someone away, but only the other person can decide to accept you or not. Same thing with work, although there have been fewer good songs written about it.

Ive been noodling this for a long time, and so often in life its only when people smarter than you put it in words that you think, yes, Ive been thinking exactly that. In his new book, Triggers, Creating Behavior that Lasts, Becoming the Person You Want to Be, Marshall Goldsmith makes the same argument. Engagement is internal to the person in question.

At even the most awful, dysfunctional companies you find a mix of people. In any job, he says, you have a mix of people who are actively engaged, positive and giving it their all You have most of the people who are doing what theyre supposed to do, and everyones okay with that. Then you have the people who are negative, disruptive or outright destructive.

In Goldsmiths opinion, the people who are actively engaged choose to be engaged. The ones who arent might blame outside factors like the employer, the economy, their home life or Obama, but at the end of the day its a pretty consistent percentage of the population that falls into each camp.

Goldsmith suggests asking ourselves direct, engaging questions. Rather than were you engaged at work today? which implies that there are multiple external factors at work, he suggests asking questions that start with something simple. Did I do my best to be engaged? or Did I do my best to successfully reach good outcomes for my customers? Those questions create an entirely different mindset.

Now, if some of the answers are followed up by, how can we help? or how did we get in the way?, that company can really move the needle and help people engage. See the difference? You cant force engagement on people, but you can help them engage.

This is not to imply that companies dont do an awful lot to create conditions under which people actively disengage. They do. Working conditions, pay, manager-employee relationships and even pizza parties all can help or hinder your efforts to engage people. At the end of the day, though, its up to each employee.

There is an old saying (attributed to Buddha although he never actually said it), that pain is inevitable, misery is optional. The same goes for engagement. Our workplaces might be absolutely crazy and even soul-sucking, but how we respond to that craziness and whether we allow our souls to be slurped up is up to us, whether theres free pizza or not.

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Wayne Turmel
Wayne Turmel

Wayne Turmel has been writing about how to communicate effectively in remote and virtual environments for more than 20 years. In 2016, he merged with The Kevin Eikenberry Group, to create The Remote Leadership Institute, and now serves as Master Trainer and Coach to the Kevin Eikenberry Group. Wayne is also is the author of more than 15 books, including The Long-Distance Teammate and The Long-Distance Team.