Charles Helliwell's Answer:
Firstly put aside any thoughts about whether your team is older or younger,
men or women, gay or straight, quiet or vocal, because it really doesn't
matter.
Any team consists of a group of individuals not robots. That's your
starting point and it is the same wherever you are and whatever you happen
to do. So take that as given; it's hand you've been dealt and your skill as
a manager is how well you play your hand. Sometimes the cards are good;
sometimes they're bad, but mostly, they're distinctly average.
It sounds like your team is pretty average on the whole, which is fine,
although your management of them is allowing them to lower their personal
and professional productivity bar as opposed to raising it.
As a consequence the team, quite rightly, is blaming you and looking to you to raise the standards. Hence their mutual collaboration in focusing their anxiety and
frustration on you. Every team is only as strong as its weakest link, and
that's why you are where you are today.
So, what are you going to do about it ? Well, for a start, you're going to
stop feeling sorry for yourself and start acting like an authoritative and
capable manager, who has the answers to lead them out of this situation.
Firstly, you are going to create two sub-teams within your team in which you
will place each of your 'power' team members. Then you will task each team
to compete directly in the tasks they have to perform. You will create goals
for each and the team which completes more goals each month will be rewarded
with something like a night out for them and their partners.
Don't create any team leaders; if each team wants to appoint one then that's up them. All you want to see is high levels of commitment, performance and productivity.
The dynamic of this 'divide and rule' strategy will become clear very quickly. One team will consistently out-perform the other and your two 'power' colleagues will be too busy trying to destroy each other to focus any attention on you. It will also become very clear to the other members of your team that these two people are not working in their best interests either, and as a consequence they will look to you for guidance and leadership.
The outcome of this will be that in a relatively short time, the
high performing and high potential members of your team will look to you to
take decisive action over any team member who is either unwilling or
incapable of making the contribution you want them to make.
At that point, you must make the positive changes you need to and you bring back the team into a single functioning unit, with the added bonus of having now
identified the next layer of management potential to allow successful
succession planning and your inevitable and well-deserved promotion for a
job well done.
Myra White adds:
First you should not assume that all of your team is against you. A, B and C are problems but other more silent team members may be intimidated by B and C (your power team members) and secretly resent the power that they are exercising.
Your first step should be to retake command of your team by setting clear guidelines for team behavior and by making it clear that the same rules apply to everyone.
As the team manger, it is up to you to shape team culture and behavior rather than letting B and C set the tone for the team. It is also important to stress that everyone on the team is to be treated with respect including yourself.
If B and C are questioning or challenging your decisions or criticizing you in front of other team members, you should set clear boundaries both in your own mind and with the team as to what decisions are made by the team and what decisions are made by you.
This doesn't mean that you can't solicit team input on the decisions that you make but you should make it clear that the final decision is yours. If you feel undue pressure when meeting with the team or find yourself beginning to waver, just state that you will take the team's suggestions into consideration and inform the team of your decision at a later time.
You may feel uncomfortable managing people older than yourself but this is your job as team manager. You need to stop worrying about what members of your team think about you because this makes you vulnerable to criticism from people like B and C.
Remember that it is far more important to be respected by the members of your team rather than liked by them. Your job is to produce results, not to win a popularity contest.
By being concerned over what team members think about you, you are unconsciously giving them power. Just like people can smell fear, they can smell your insecurities and use them to manipulate you.
With regard to threats of a discrimination complaint, you can protect yourself by carefully documenting A's poor performance including episodes such as what happened in the parking lot. For each event be sure to include the date and time as well as an objective description of exactly what A did or what A failed to do.
Such descriptions should not include your emotional reactions to or criticisms of A's behavior. You should also keep records of each coaching session that you have with A. If you haven't kept these records in the past, sit down as soon as possible and create a detailed record based on your memory of events.