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Peter Vajda

Peter Vajda

Peter G. Vajda, Ph.D, C.P.C. is a seminar leader, workshop facilitator and speaker. He is the founding partner of True North Partnering, an Atlanta-based company that supports conscious living through coaching, counselling and facilitating.

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Three steps for surviving a sick organization

14 Nov 2014

How can individuals can survive in a dysfunctional workplace? Here's a simple but powerful approach that can help you find more peace of mind and reduce the stress caused by a toxic working environment.

Work, spirituality and interdependence

31 Oct 2014

We are all interconnected. Whether we like it or not, every individual within a group or organization affects the way it functions in some way. So acknowledging our own humanity and that of those around us is fundamental to the overall well-being of every organization.

Are you a leadership lightweight?

13 Oct 2014

None of us are perfect. All of us have blinds spots and areas where we need to raise the bar (sometimes a long way) to improve the quality and effectiveness of our work. Here are five common leadership pitfalls that can keep you stuck in the lightweight division.

Moving beyond procrastination

08 Oct 2014

Procrastination doesn’t exist in a vacuum: there’s normally something underlying it. Asking yourself these questions can help you uncover why you're resisting doing what needs to be done and help you to move beyond procrastination.

25 behaviors that foster mistrust

29 Sep 2014

Relationships are at the heart of life - at home and at work. And the secret sauce that creates and sustains healthy relationships is trust. So does your own behavior help to build trust, or are you undermining it?

Keep on keeping on

19 Sep 2014

It isn’t motivation that spurs us on to change, improve ourselves or to live an extraordinary life. Motivation is too transient for that. The most powerful energy is force of will, the staying power to keep on keeping on even when our motivation is absent or at a low ebb.

Author, heal thyself

15 Sep 2014

Why do some people always seem to need to run other peoples' lives? Why do they prefer to tell others how to live their lives rather than getting to know themselves? And how can they close the book on other peoples' lives and start to author the book of their own?

What’s stopping you from healing?

25 Aug 2014

Many people claim they want to ‘heal’. In reality, however, what they’re actually looking for isn’t healing, it’s simply a quick-fix that can reduce their pain and suffering. That’s an important distinction, because true healing can be both challenging and threatening.

Do you always need to be right?

11 Aug 2014

Many people feel that they always have to be right. What's more, they also have a need to prove that others are wrong. So what's the reason for this 'I’m right, you’re wrong' dynamic? And what would happen if we let go of it?

Now is all there is

04 Aug 2014

Do you live in the moment or are you always waiting for a future that might never arrive? The thing is, ‘now’ is all there is and if you don’t appreciate that, you’re missing out on your life.

Silencing your inner critic

18 Jul 2014

Inside every one of us there is a little voice that criticizes, judges and shames us, telling us that we’re deficient, bad or wrong. It’s merciless, damaging and it needs to be silenced.

We all need proper vacations

14 Jul 2014

We've said it before and we'll say it again. Everyone needs a proper holiday. Taking real time out from work is a non-negotiable necessity if we're to to maintain a healthy mind, body and soul.And that means turning off the phone and leaving the laptop at home.

Are you a firecracker or a dud?

04 Jul 2014

On this holiday weekend in the midst of fireworks and fun, how about taking a moment to reflect on how you're doing as a leader, manager or supervisor. Are you a sparkling firecracker or a fizzling dud?

Integrity, balance and self-deception

27 Jun 2014

Many people can tell you what they’re doing in their lives but are hard-pressed to explain why. They lack real purpose. They’re disconnected and out of balance. And without a conscious alignment between what they think, feel, say and do, they also lack any real integrity.

Do your filters stop you from hearing?

06 Jun 2014

Every time you have a conversation, what you hear gets distorted by the unconscious listening filters each of us develops early in life and carries with us into adulthood. And that means that too often, we listen but we don't really hear.

Are you on the road to burnout?

23 May 2014

The road to burnout is paved with good intentions. So if you're an idealistic, hardworking, self-motivating achiever with high aspirations and expectations, don't make the mistake of thinking that it can't happen to you.

Whose success is it anyway?

09 May 2014

Most of us aspire to succeed. But what does that mean? It's no use trying to emulate somebody else's idea of success. Being successful requires a conscious exploration of what success means to you. It's far more than just achieving results.

A culture of fear

24 Mar 2014

For all the talk of organizational values and integrity, many people experience life at work caught up in a culture of fear. Fear of losing their jobs, fear of being judged, fear of making mistakes or fear of pointing out inappropriate behaviour.

You know best

10 Mar 2014

No-one else knows what's best for us. So advising others, educating others, making decisions for them, plotting and planning their journey and crafting their strategy for moving forward is not our responsibility, nor should it be.

The fear of not knowing

14 Feb 2014

Many of us over-emphasize how much we know and feel that not knowing something is unacceptable. When was the last time you admitted that "I don't know" and felt completely at ease with saying it?

The truth about change

06 Feb 2014

The reason change so often fails is that we resist letting go of old ideas and beliefs. But you cannot change and remain the same. Change means the letting go of the old and encouraging something new to develop. And that's as true for organizations as it is for individuals.

Collusion, culture and bad management

23 Jan 2014

Does your workplace have a culture of collusion? Are you happy to turn a blind eye to the misdeeds to ensure a quiet life? If so, beware. Collusion is a progressive drug. We need to lie and collude more and more to maintain that false feeling of emotional safety

More from Peter

Embracing change

15 Jan 2014

We've all heard the expression "change is the one constant in life." Every day we experience change in some way. But for many, change is unsettling, bringing with it feelings of insecurity, instability and disharmony - fears that can all be overcome.

Finding inner peace in 2014

30 Dec 2013

Far from being at peace, many of us seem to go through life in a state of conflict, agitation, upset, stress or overwhelm. Here are some ways to change that and start finding some inner peace in 2014.

Emotional intelligence or emotional maturity?

26 Nov 2013

Much of the talk about the importance of emotional intelligence is missing the point if we fail to deal with the root causes of our emotional reactivity. In fact it's not emotional intelligence that really matters, but emotional maturity.

The need to please

21 Nov 2013

People who are always trying to please others seldom do. In fact more often than not, their behavior is counter-productive. So what about you? Are you a people-pleaser?

Why is gossip such a tough habit to quit?

11 Nov 2013

We often forget that gossip is a form of workplace violence and under-estimate the harm it can do. But why is gossip so pervasive and such a tough habit to quit? Peter Vajda investigates.

The moment I wake up

25 Oct 2013

When we wake up in the morning, there is a nano-second between the moment we regain consciousness and the moment the thinking kicks in. It's a moment that reveals much about us. But have you ever tried exploring it?

Substance vs form

21 Oct 2013

One of life's most important personal growth experiences is discovering the difference between form - the outer self - and substance - the inner self.

Root cause problem-solving

27 Sep 2013

For many years, the Japanese have approached the process of problem- solving with a strategy known as "the Five Whys". Peter Vajda explores how this helps us find better solutions.

How to fail as a leader

13 Aug 2013

Leadership is impossible without self-knowledge and self-development. But if you're really set on failing as a leader, here are some key behaviors that will go a long way towards creating a toxic, disengaged, distrustful and low-performing organization. Do any of them describe you?

The fear of closing doors

07 Aug 2013

Do you wear "crazy-busy" as a merit badge? Have you ever thought that it might be a good idea to slow down and not try to keep every possible option open? Or does that thought fill you with dread that you'll miss out on something?

Talk, talk, talk

26 Jul 2013

One of the most irritating elements of work is not just the number of unnecessary meetings,but the incessant, aimless talk that never seems to go away and seldom leads anywhere. It's rather like endlessly moving the furniture around in a room.

The benefit of the doubt

14 Jul 2013

When you mess up or miscalculate, do you tend to point to some external factor as an excuse rather than admit you were at fault? But when someone else messes up, how often do you point to some flaw in their character as the reason they behaved as they did?